As I’m getting older I’m realizing a few things about myself: 1. I’m a horrible decision maker 2. I only really know what I don’t like 3. I’m really freaking scared of making the wrong decision. That means, when I’m faced with many great options to choose between, I get a little crazy and sometimes end up making no decision at all. Then at the same time, I’m slowly becoming the type of person that knows what she does not like and is not going to settle. I’m a walking Catch 22.
This whole home buying process, has seriously taken a toll on me. I mean, you’re giving a girl like me tons of houses to choose from? All of which I can see the potential in? ugh. Anyone who knows me personally will tell you that making big decisions are one of the hardest things for me to do. I mean.. even taking on a new position at work is hard for me.
I try to be as educated as possible before making any decision that is going to essentially change my current way of life. You can call it over thinking, but I like to think of it as smart decision making. I am also such a devil’s advocate and try to see every side of the situation before proceeding. Which, ultimately can sometimes result in me making no decision, or having analyzed it so well, that I feel extremely confident.
It can be a daunting process and I think I have nailed it down to a t.
After all.. this is my daily struggle.
here are a few things to help you with making confident decisions
avoid analysis paralysis: overthinking can drain you and cause you to not make a decision at all. This obviously doesn’t help the situation, so try to avoid at all costs.
educate yourself: really, slow down, take your time and think about what you’re deciding on and how it will affect you. Do your research, read reviews and notice what you lean towards.
pros and cons list: the oldest trick, but I still swear by this method. Every decision I make includes a piece of paper that is weighing out the positives vs. the negatives. It also helps me process information better when I see it on paper and no longer let it rent head space. My friends/family know I love this method so much, that I often receive official pros/cons notebooks as gifts.
take your time: aka sleep on it. I have a motto.. “If I’m still thinking about it (positively) then it’s meant to be”.
phone a friend: I ask everyone and their mother what they would do if they were in my position. I don’t do this because I want their decision to be my decision, I do this because I want to know how other’s feel. I think I’m pretty good about not adopting other peoples feelings and simply seeing other sides to my decision.
Ultimately, I know what I want, but I also like to take many steps before pulling the trigger. It can be exhausting sometimes. But, wouldn’t feeling like you did the wrong thing feel worse?
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